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The Courtship Code by Laju Iren




This sermon started with a common thing among our generation:  Jumping into conclusion.

Pastor Laju goes on to outline various codes that should guide us during dating.

Code 1: Dating is not a hobby. It's not something you do for fun. You can have fun in it (going out e.t.c) but it's not all for fun

4 signs that you are not being serious.
1. You choose without thinking about it
2. You have little or no standards.
3. No objectives: no goal in mind.
4. When you only do the fun part.



Code 2: Love is a choice
You are not a slave to your feelings, family or prophets.
You must intentionally consider.
You can't be in relationship due to circumstances beyond your control.

6. mistakes people make when choosing.
- circumstances
- low expectations 
- unrealistic expectations: you are in your process, so also your partner. You need grace to be able to see beyond now
- Ill preparedness.
- Wrong counsel.
- Spiritual gymnastic

Code 3: Love is visionary / successful relationship are possible.
Love sees beyond now into the future

Code 4: Love is sexy, but more than sexy.
Overcoming sexual temptation
- Accountability - involve other parties if you are struggling with sexual temptation.
- Sensibility
- Holyghost ability

Gutsy Guilt- Accept forgiveness.

Code 5: Love is a fruit of your spirit

Code 6: Love is wise.
Jesus loved every one, but He didn't trust every one.
What intentional conversation are you having?

Code7:
Love is intentional
Even when your partners does not do things you expect, they still love you.

 Love can change its mind.. don't make permanent decisions from temporary mistake.


Code 8: Courtship isn't an institution. You're not married until you married. Prov 20v25
How do you know you are ready for marriage.
1. You wanting it is a good sign
2.  maturity.

Successful relationship are possible and vision is a big part of it

Finally, God has an overarching be vision for mankind, what role would  your relationship play in fulfilling that vision.


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